What Is Love Addiction?

"Addicted to Love" is more than just the title of a Robert Palmer song; it is a form of sex addiction and can be as destructive as any other sexual behavior taken to an extreme.

Also called seductive addiction, this is a case where the addict is compelled to seduce another or frequently enter into new relationships. While in other types of sex addiction the person is after the feelings and brain chemicals produced by physical sex acts, here the goal is the heady feeling one gets in the first stages of a romantic relationship.

Most humans can appreciate, in one form or another, the feeling when one is first falling in love. Their thoughts revolve around the other person, their behavior changes, and they see the object of their interest, and perhaps the world in general, in a better light. The condition has been portrayed in all forms of media going back as far as those media have existed. Books are written, movies are made, songs are written, blogs are created, articles are written, poems created, and so much more to honor the feeling of falling in love. It's a powerful feeling, and one around which a person can develop an addiction.

In a healthy relationship, those intense emotions work to form deep bonds and fade over time into something different and more sustainable. An analogy often used compares the first stages of a romance to a roaring fire whose flames, over time, burn down to glowing coals. Many sex and relationship advice experts talk about "rekindling romance" and "finding that old spark."

After all that, the sex addict will build a new fire, and another, and another, and another. Their brain is seeking that love-at-first-sight feeling, that thrill of wooing another into a relationship. When that feeling dies down, they move on to do it again.

Of course it's not unusual and is, in fact, the norm for a person to have had a few relationships like this before settling on one that is more long term. Once the "honeymoon is over" so to speak, two people may learn they are not matched well enough to carry on a long-term relationship and will break it off one way or another. Most experts would hesitate to put a firm number on the number of relationships that constitutes normal. Sex addiction cannot be readily identified using any kind of numerical criteria or formula. The frequency and intensity of the relationships are all factors to be considered in diagnosing this addiction.

The negative consequences of such a sex addiction can be a string of jilted lovers, stress from being in a constant state of emotional chaos, and, if the love addiction ritual involves copulation, possibly even sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancies. Because of our cultural norms and mores, females with love addiction can open themselves to stigma, being labeled "whores" or "sluts" by others, or can feel that way about themselves.

Men may find this behavior encouraging, being labeled a "ladies' man" or a "player." They may never seek treatment for it, not seeing it as a problem.

For women this is one of the most common forms of sex addiction. Women tend to be more subtle about their seduction methods but will go through lovers as fast as men with a sexual addicted.

The media, to some degree, can contribute to this distorted sense of relationship. Stories tend to focus on that initial romantic fire, while significantly fewer songs are sung and fewer movies are made about a mature relationship with many years behind it and more to go. Perhaps more than a few love addicts started developing their sex addiction merely by being poorly educated on what a good relationship entails, thinking that intensity at the start is not supposed to fade. Most people learn differently, and it's not a given that a sex addict or love addict is unaware of how a relationship should be. A sex addict may even form a long term relationship and sabotage it with affairs as they seek romance on the side.

A sex addict with a truly distorted view of a healthy relationship may see love and romance as simply the art of seduction and sexual encounters. To them, romantic partners are not people to form connections with, but targets or prey to be won over, wooed, seduced, and conquered. The relationship ends with the act of sex, and when they finally decide to go for a "real" relationship, the sex addict can find maintaining one difficult

What Is Hypnotherapy? (What Isn't Hypnotherapy)

A great number of people have misconceptions about what hypnotherapy is, what it isn't, what it can achieve, and what it can't. So what is it? And, can it really help?

Lets start by dispelling the first myth of hypnotherapy - It is not about the stage shows. This is theatre, a hypnotherapist simply cannot make you squawk like a chicken or generally act like an idiot without your agreement. Lets have a look at stage hypnotherapy for a moment and how it works

Well, if you imagine that in the audience for a stage hypnosis show and there's 1000 people there, and say 90% of them actually want to be there and are up for a show, so that's 900 left in the pot of potential candidates. Before the show the hypnotherapist will ask who is willing to come up on stage and make a fool out of themselves. Say for instance that 50% of them agree, so we're left with 450. The hypnotist will then go through a series of susceptibility tests to see who will make the best volunteers and will select, say 50. Then those people will go through another series of hypnotic tests to see who really is "up for it" to determine the most susceptible, outgoing characters in the group. The rest will be sent back to the audience, and those on stage will be "primed" ready for the show. So a stage hypnotist will load the tables before the group even start acting like chickens or whatever they are asked to do. About 60 years ago governments experimented with hypnosis as a means of interrogation for captured enemy soldiers. After many studies they discovered that enemy soldiers could not be hypnotised to give up secrets! What this proved was that the person being hypnotised is still always in control at some level and cannot be made to do something that goes against their core beliefs. So now you know, you cannot be made to squawk like a chicken, without your agreement, what can be done with hypnotherapy?

Now this is the exciting part, and get ready for a long winded answer... Anything you can imagine!

That said, there are physical limitations. For instance if you're wheelchair bound and you ask a hypnotherapist "Can hypnosis help me win the 100 metres mens final at the Olympic Games?", you're going to have to expect a "No"! But, if you ask a hypnotherapist "I've had this phobia of heights for 20 years, but I really, really want to climb a mountain, can you help?". In that case the answer is a resounding "YES". If you have a problem and you want a solution then hypnotherapy can help you massively!

How does hypnotherapy work as a therapy? Use an hypnotic induction to get you into a state of deep relaxation, very similar to a state of deep meditation. Once there the conscious mind is pretty much switched into a standby mode (just like your TV) and the unconscious mind is ready to listen deeply and openly to suggestions. A series of hypnotherapy techniques (like embedded commands, illusionary choice, and metaphors) can then be to speak directly to your unconscious mind and change the belief programming that has been causing you problems. Now the great thing is here that you are always in control, and your unconscious mind will accept the new programming deeply and allow it to take effect immediately.

Stress - Is It Killing You?

We have always know that long-term stress is bad for you - the constant and prolonged release of the stress hormone cortisol is associated with a number of serious effects including high blood pressure, suppressed immunity, decreased bone density, impaired cognitive performance and many others. However, have you noticed the amount of recent research on exactly how bad it is for you there has been lately?

A recent study for the Lancet by Prof Andrew Steptoe indicates work related stress causes a 23% increase in the risk of heart attacks

Researchers in the US have now analysed the brain tissue from depressed & stressed individuals and discovered a brain shrinkage. It is believed the stress blocks the formation of new nerve connections disrupting the circuits associated with mental and emotional function, how stress and depression shrink the brain.

More recently, Professor Sarah Berga of Emory University of Atlanta has released her research on the link between stress and infertility.

SO - WHAT CAN YOU DO?

You have got to work. You can't give your teenagers away (nice thought maybe) and the house/garden etc is not going to do itself. (Roll on the invention of the self-cleaning house we say!)

It is all about finding something you can do, for yourself, to reduce your personal stress levels and increase your levels of relaxation. What you do is going to be down to personal choice, but you have to find it, schedule it in and commit to it. After all, how hard would it really be to schedule in a 20min walk in the park? ANSWER - Not very hard, unless your stress levels are already becoming chronic and impacting on your mental well-being - then what? We would always recommend you visit your GP to get a correct diagnosis and then, any good GP will recommend a talking/counselling therapy. Again, who you choose for your therapy should be your decision; you really need to feel you could trust and feel comfortable with your therapist to get the best results.

We believe prolonged and/or chronic stress is a silent killer of our age. Do not ignore it. Have a look at some of the symptoms listed below:

• Difficulty with sleeping
• Palpitations
• Constant tiredness
• Aching/tense muscles
• Deminished Libido
• Weight gain or loss (not due to dieting)
• Increased alcohol or drug intake

Do more than one of these apply to you?

Yes? GET SOME HELP

We always provide a free consultation either in person or by telephone before we would even allow a client to make an appointment for our hypnotherapy or NLP

How to Cure a Mental Illness Based on The Meaning of Dreams

Carl Jung's method of dream interpretation is curing mental illnesses since 1920. I started curing people from various mental illnesses through dream therapy by using his method of dream interpretation in September of 1990. I continued his difficult and complicated research by obeying the guidance of the unconscious mind in dream messages.

The fact that I managed to simplify Carl Jung's complicated method of dream interpretation is a great advantage for you. My dynamic simplifications help you immediately understand what you have to do in order to stop having psychological problems.

You can be sure that the scientific method of dream interpretation is a safe psychotherapeutical method because it is not based on human ignorance. When you trust the scientific method of dream interpretation you are trusting a psychotherapeutical method successfully tested during two generations, which is based on divine wisdom, and not on human suppositions.

All ancient civilizations that respected the importance of the meaning of dreams were right. Some civilizations could understand the unconscious language, even though they didn't transmit their knowledge to the world.

The advantage to receive precious messages in dreams is an alternative we didn't expect we could have. The meaning of dreams is underestimated by most people in our world. Nobody can believe that the meaning of dreams must be respected because it surpasses our expectations.

On the other hand, the hypocritical mindset of the absurd modern civilization is materialistic and atheistic. Our barbarous civilization disregards many truths.

Everyone must translate the meaning of dreams based on the scientific method of dream interpretation, so that they may recognize the superiority of the unconscious guidance.

The perfect treatment of the unconscious mind is visible from the beginning. All mental illnesses are cured based on wisdom.

For example, I will show you a simple phrase from a dreamer's dream and my translations:

'I'm at a bus stop. I see a machine that lets you play bass guitar.'

Dream Translation:

'I'm at a bus stop.'

You represent your ego in dreams.

The bus is a vehicle. Therefore, it represents your life.

If you'll take a bus in a dream this means that your life will follow the repetitive route that everyone follows, which ends up on frustrations and deceptions. The bus doesn't give you new alternatives and solutions. The bus follows always the same route.

You are at the bus stop because your ego had the intention to follow a route without alternatives.

'I see a machine that let's you play bass guitar.'

The machine with games represents an illusion.

The fact that you can play bass guitar means that this illusion will give you joy.

In a few words:

If you'll repeat the mistakes of the human race and follow the same route that everyone follows, you will end up on frustrations.

If you'll believe in illusions, you will end up on frustrations.

You have to look for new alternatives in life and evolve.

You also have to be serious and pay attention to the real facts of your reality, instead of believing in unreal things.

...

The unconscious words in dreams work like psychotherapy and at the same time, they have a philosophical background. They help the dreamer think like a philosopher.

The sentence: 'If you'll repeat the mistakes of the human race'... shows to the dreamer that his life belongs to a certain behavioral system created in ancient times. He must pay attention to the details of this system and avoid repeating the mistakes of previous generations.

The dreamer understands that he tends to repeat the mistakes of the human race because he belongs to this behavioral system. Therefore, he must pay attention to the signs that indicate that he is repeating common human mistakes.

The dreamer must find new alternatives in life instead of repeating his ancestors' mistakes. He has the chance to evolve if he will follow the unconscious guidance in dreams.

The Impact Of Sleep Deprivation On Health

How much sleep are you getting?

Numerous studies carried out by experts show the importance of sleep and the negative results that occur when it's lacking. Experts on sleep show that that REM sleep, or dream-sleep, helps consolidate "fragile" memories the brain creates throughout the day so that they can be easily organized and stored in the brain's long-term memory. Can you imagine not being able to remember important events that goes on in your life? This is one of the main problems linked to lack of sleep and why it's so important to get enough of it.

Almost everyone is aware of the need for enough hours of sleep but do most of us really know what's the required number of hours for the average human? 8 hours of every day is the ideal number for optimal functioning of the human body. Most of us have a biological clock that lets us know exactly how many hours of sleep our body needs on average. However, sleeping disorders can distort this sleep cycle and seeking help from an expert is the best option. Age is an important factor in determining how many hours of sleep we need.

• A normal adult requires about 7-8 hours of sleep but this number may vary depending on other factors such as mental health.
• A baby needs up to 16 hours of sleep
• 9 hours of sleep is just about right for teenagers
• Pregnant women need to sleep longer than your average adult.

What is Sleep Deprivation?

Sleep deprivation is a condition in which a person does not get enough hours of sleep and it can be either acute or chronic.

Impact on your Health

Studies have shown that sleep deprivation impacts negatively on brain activity and cognitive functions. Since the brain controls what's going on inside our bodies, this has an adverse effect on our health and fitness. According to researchers, depriving oneself of this vital biological function may result in:

• Memory problems
• Aching muscles
• Impaired judgement and fatigue; many traffic accidents and deaths are caused by drivers falling asleep behind the wheel.
• Weight Loss/gain
• Depression
• Hallucinations
• Obesity
• Increased risk of diabetes
• Adversely affects growth & the healing process

How can I get enough sleep?

Sleep deprivation results in a sleep deficit. Our bodies need to repay this deficit since we can't seem to adapt to it. Common symptoms are fatigue, daytime sleepiness,clumsiness and weight loss or weight gain. The only safe way to combat sleep deprivation is to ensure that you get enough sleep time at night. stimulants like caffeine can be effective to counteract the effects of sleep deprivation but it becomes less effective if used frequently.